Don't panic if a man's orgasm is "delayed"; middle-aged men can indulge in some "fantasy."

**Don't panic if a man's orgasm is delayed.**

Generally speaking, some men only need 2 to 6 minutes from sexual arousal to orgasm, while others need ten minutes or more, and end up sweating profusely. When this delayed orgasm occurs, some men begin to wonder: Is this abnormal?

In fact, libido and sexual ability are closely related to age, physical condition, emotions, frequency of sexual intercourse, and living environment. Although clinically it is believed that the time to reach orgasm is roughly 2 minutes, younger people with stronger physiques will reach orgasm in a relatively shorter time; while older people with weaker physiques will naturally reach orgasm in a longer time.

It is generally believed that men who enter middle age experience a slower onset of sexual arousal and a relatively longer time to reach orgasm. Furthermore, men in this age group often have heavy workloads and household chores, resulting in lower energy and physical strength. Therefore, they often require more direct stimulation to arouse their sexual desire. This delayed orgasm due to physiological and external factors is certainly not considered pathological.

In such situations, men should not be pessimistic. They can appropriately control the timing of intercourse, ensuring sufficient preparation and rest beforehand, and engaging in sexual activity when they are energetic and have a high libido. Some people schedule sex for Sunday mornings to allow ample time for sperm replenishment before and after intercourse. More importantly, the concentration of adrenaline in the body is highest at this time, thus ensuring ideal sexual performance.

Furthermore, changing sexual positions or the indoor environment can also help men shorten the time it takes to reach orgasm. For example, after the penis is erect, the woman-on-top position can be used, allowing the wife to actively and continuously stimulate the penis.

Of course, many chronic diseases can also cause delayed orgasm in men, in which case the underlying physical cause should be investigated. Young men experiencing delayed orgasm should consider whether they have a long-term habit of masturbation or excessively frequent sexual activity. Long-term masturbation often prevents normal sexual intercourse from reaching the stimulation threshold for orgasm; while excessively frequent sexual activity can lead to inhibition of the sexual arousal center. Other physiological reasons should not be ignored, such as phimosis or paraphimosis, which can prevent sufficient exposure of erogenous zones, all of which can lead to delayed orgasm. In these cases, it is necessary to seek medical attention to address the problem.

Author: Zhang Yaqiang, Chief Physician of Urology, Guang'anmen Hospital, Chinese Medicine Scientist

Middle-aged men might benefit from having a little "fantasy."

For many middle-aged couples, the loss of interest in sex, or even the long-term abstinence from intimacy, is a source of pain. While this is closely related to age, sexual ability, and physical condition, a monotonous and uninteresting sex life, unchanged for decades, is also a significant factor contributing to male sexual decline. How to rekindle sexual interest? The simplest trick is: boldly indulge in sexual fantasies with your wife.

Many women may perceive male sexual fantasies as infidelity. However, sexual fantasies can actually be a great way to improve the quality of sex life. Their beauty lies in their ability to transcend time and space, increasing sexual arousal, cultivating interest in sex, and promoting orgasm.

Many middle-aged men, after establishing a long-term and stable sex life, may have lost their initial passion and even their strong libido. Therefore, they often need sexual fantasies to achieve self-stimulation. In fact, for middle-aged men, having more sexual fantasies does not betray their promise of mutual fidelity with their spouses, and it can also bring novelty to their sexual behavior.

Middle-aged men tend to recall past sexual details during sexual fantasies, such as their sexual encounters with their partners in the past and what their partners looked like when they were young. This makes them feel more comfortable in their actual sex life.

However, while sexual fantasies can help with sexual arousal and excitement, indulging in them all day long can negatively impact normal work and life, thus defeating the purpose.

Therefore, middle-aged men should only indulge in sexual fantasies temporarily, and these fantasies should end after sexual activity. To some extent, the more fantastical and unrealistic the sexual fantasy, the less negative its impact; conversely, the more concrete and realistic it is, the greater the threat it poses to real-life sex and even marriage.

Author: Xiong Jiangxue