Steps to take after receiving a contact's email and a guide to your first date.

**13.** What to do after receiving a written application?

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After a personal ad is published, dozens or even hundreds of applications will follow.

> A sealed letter of inquiry. What should someone seeking a spouse do? Here are 6 points for reference.

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(1) Read the letters carefully: No matter how many letters there are, they should all be read carefully with a serious attitude.

> Open and read. If you ignore the letter, or if you are dissatisfied upon looking at the envelope...

They wouldn't even open or read the letter, even if it contained details like handwriting, occupation, or region, or because the letter was too long.

However, skimming through texts, or dismissing short messages as insignificant, could lead to missed opportunities.

This shows a lack of respect for the applicant's feelings.

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(2) Selective Reply: Read the entire letter, gaining a comprehensive understanding of all applicants' situations.

Based on your understanding and your own requirements, select 1-3 people who you find satisfactory.

(No more than 5 people) Contact them via email first. Be mindful of your language when replying, even if...

Even if it's someone you're very satisfied with, don't rush things and immediately agree.

Establish a romantic relationship. For those who do not meet your criteria for a partner, you should promptly and tactfully reply to their messages.

> Refusing to accept the mail, photos should be returned to the sender; requests for the original mail to be returned should be made to the sender.

Letters that need to be returned should be properly kept or destroyed to avoid causing unnecessary harm to others.

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(3) Arrange a meeting: After communicating and gaining some understanding, it is believed that...

If a meeting is necessary, a time and place can be arranged after both parties agree.

Since the two parties are strangers, they can agree on a mark or "secret" in advance in their letters.

A "number" can also be used as proof of identity, such as a letter. The first date is primarily for getting to know each other.

Next, observe their appearance; the time need not be too long. It's best to bring your work ID when meeting them.

This is to allow the other party to verify your identity, but you don't need to tell them about your job during the first meeting.

For your workplace and address, just give a general description of your job and living area.

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(4) Continue contact: If both parties are satisfied with the first meeting, a second meeting can be arranged.

We met three times. Subsequent meetings allowed for more in-depth conversations and deeper understanding than the first.

Real names, workplaces, and home addresses may be disclosed at our discretion. See you later.

During a face-to-face meeting, you can observe the other person's work and studies through conversation and physical contact.

> To gain a basic understanding of his learning, family, experiences, interests, hobbies, etc.

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(5) Investigation and understanding: In addition to direct conversations and correspondence, one can also...

Ask a reliable person to find out about the other person's situation, such as their workplace and family life.

> Observe their behavior, whether they have a marital history, etc. But be careful not to let the other party know, and never write to their workplace to investigate.

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(6) Cultivating feelings: After the above steps, the relationship can be basically confirmed.

They've entered into a romantic relationship. However, since they were complete strangers beforehand, they lacked the necessary emotional foundation.

Therefore, a process of cultivation and establishment is needed; it is not advisable to rush into registration.

> Marriage. If it is truly difficult to develop feelings, you should promptly reconnect with other applicants.

However, such a change must be made with caution and not rashly.

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14. What to talk about on a first date

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The first date plays an indispensable role in establishing and developing the relationship between the two people.

The importance of this meeting cannot be underestimated. What should be discussed upon meeting? How should it be conducted? The following points should be noted:

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(1) Be honest and frank; answer the questions the other party wants to know directly.

> Be honest and straightforward; don't hide anything, and certainly don't try to save face. During the conversation, there were...

> Intentionally or unintentionally expressing oneself, implying one's talents, abilities, honors, etc., all

We must be realistic and truthful, and we cannot fabricate facts.

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(2) No matter how much the other person pursues you or takes the initiative to invite you out, in the invitation...

During meetings, one must not show the slightest smugness, look down on others, or make jokes.

The approach should be to belittle others while praising oneself; respect the other person and be humble and polite. If the conversation truly cannot continue,...

You should also obtain the other party's consent before leaving, and never leave without saying goodbye.

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(3) During the first meeting, the topics can be broad, in addition to exchanging information.

In addition to their views on a particular movie, television program, or news item, both sides can also use appropriate...

In a more proactive tone, ask more questions, such as about the other person's experience, work, and lifestyle.

Inquire about the other person's interests, hobbies, family members, etc., so as to quickly gain a basic understanding of their situation.

A general understanding. If introduced by someone else, in some cases, this understanding may not be available before meeting in person.

If you have some understanding, you can strategically mention it to get confirmation. At the same time, you should also...

Note that some questions should never be asked directly, such as how many people live or are in your household.

> How much property or savings do they have? Sometimes, after asking these questions, the other party is unwilling to answer immediately.

If the answer is vague or the person is deliberately avoiding the question, do not press them further; you can leave it for another time.

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(4) Everyone has a different personality, and they talk a lot or a little. Therefore, it is impossible to expect everyone to talk a lot.

At our first meeting, he was incredibly talkative and spoke fluently, demonstrating a clear understanding of everything.

> Chu, many things can be discussed in future interactions.

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> 15. What should you pay attention to on a first date?

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A first date often leaves an unforgettable impression on the other person, therefore,

When arranging a meeting by phone, letter, or verbally, always use the word "discussion."

You must never force someone to do something against their will. When choosing a time and place, you should first consult with others.

Seek the other party's opinion; if they cannot offer specific suggestions, you can then express your own thoughts.

> The decision should be made after the other party deems it appropriate. Once the time and place are determined, they cannot be changed.

You can break an appointment, but you can't be late, so as not to cause the other person to feel disappointed due to waiting too long and develop a negative impression of you.

> Impression. If you are late for some reason, you should apologize to the other party and

And explain the situation, hoping for the other party's understanding. Furthermore, regarding the agreed meeting time and place...

When scheduling a date, the man should try to consider whether it's convenient for the woman and allow sufficient time for the date.

> Appropriate leeway. Once the time and place are set, the man should strive to be on time or bring it up.

Arrive a few minutes early. Also, you should arrive at the meeting place early to wait for the other person.

Be understanding if your girlfriend is late for any reason; never make a fuss if she doesn't show up on time.

> You should leave immediately without getting angry, otherwise it will only make things unpleasant for both parties.

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> 16. **Dating Etiquette**

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On a first date, both men and women may feel a little reserved, but during the date...

The tense atmosphere will gradually ease as the two parties talk and find common ground.

To avoid ruining the harmonious atmosphere of your first date, be mindful of the following etiquette.

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(1) When conversing, you should listen attentively to the other person and speak enthusiastically yourself.

It's fine to talk about your friends' love lives, sex, or vulgar topics.

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(2) In the car, stay a suitable distance, but never stand too close or hold hands.

When riding a bicycle or walking, keep your distance from the other person; this will make you appear affectionate without being vulgar.

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(3) When watching a movie, if both parties are holding hands, they should do so in a gentle and natural manner, without...

> Shake or squeeze each other's hands continuously; both of you should lean slightly forward, but not too close.

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(4) When dancing, do not hug the other person tightly. The dance should be graceful and not lose your composure.

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(5) It's best not to kiss on the first date. As the number of dates increases, kissing becomes more natural.

Both parties are very satisfied with this understanding and may hold a brief farewell ceremony upon parting.

They kissed, and then broke up.

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(6) After the date, the man should take the woman home.

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For couples in a stable and established romantic relationship, etiquette regarding friendships naturally follows...

> Yes, the restrictions can be relaxed. But no matter what, intimate behavior between men and women should not be witnessed by others.

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> 17. What to do if the other party breaks their promise?

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Dating is a way for men and women to get to know each other and deepen their feelings in a romantic relationship.

Breaking a date is a common occurrence in relationships; how well it's handled is crucial.

This is also an aspect of the success or failure of a relationship. What should you do when your partner stands you up?

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(1) Stay calm and don't get angry easily. Be patient and try to understand why the other party broke their promise.

The reason is that if the other party is delayed due to unexpected circumstances on the road, and

And since they sincerely explained and apologized to you, you should forgive them.

> Don't let a chance to break a date affect the development of a romantic relationship.

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(2) If your partner is an ambitious and hardworking young person...

If someone misses a promise due to studies or work, they shouldn't be blamed.

While enthusiastically supporting your partner's work and studies, you should also carefully plan your dates.

> Make love a mutually beneficial driving force.

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(3) If your partner frequently breaks appointments without any valid reason, then

You should find out more clearly and be more vigilant. If she's a "two-timing" person...

Those who only have one boat are either fickle and easily swayed, or they behave improperly.

If you're someone who plays with the opposite sex, then you don't need to be upset about their broken promises; you should...

Make a decisive move and end the romantic relationship as soon as possible.